Forming your Morning – it’s important!

So recently whilst going through a down period with my depression, I had a realisation that got me on my way back up.

In this blog I’m going to look at:

  • My ground breaking revolutionary realisation…
  • Famous peoples thoughts on the subject and what this actually means
  • What I am trying to do to improve myself and my mental health in relation to this issue.

My ground breaking revolutionary realisation

I often find I need a realisation or a change in thinking to get me back on track. I know, surprise surprise I don’t know everything and there are better ways to do things than the way I usually do them.

I guess one of the keys to improving yourself and your mental health is self awareness through humility – not always thinking you are right and others may have the answers you’re looking for.

Anyway, I got a bit deep there didn’t I 🙂

OK so what was this revolutionary, amazing and world changing insight?

Well I’ll start with my issue at the time. I found myself not wanting to get out of bed again. Now I know that doesn’t sound like a big deal. I mean who does want to get out of bed right? It’s warm and comfy, you’re tired and chances are you are getting up to go to work. To add to this it might still be dark and the weather’s wet and windy too.

Does this sound all too familiar? You can add further to this if you are suffering with bad mental health too.

Now as someone who suffers with bad mental health, slipping into not getting out of bed is a big deal as it can spiral. Anyway, I want this to be a positive blog so I’m going to focus on getting out of this situation. I was not wanting to get out of bed because I didn’t want to, or if I’m being totally honest with you, couldn’t face the day ahead.

So the realisation I had was in actual fact, quite plain and obvious when you think about it. Yet it is something that we are all probably guilty of neglecting, some, if not most of the time.

I realised that my thoughts in the morning, shaped and coloured my thoughts for the rest of the day. Now I know I’m not the first person to think this, as I imagine that’s where the saying “who got out of the wrong side of the bed this morning?” came from. But if it’s so obvious, why don’t we spend a little time in the morning making sure we’re positively set up for the day ahead?

Famous peoples thoughts on the subject and what this actually means

“I’m always thinking about creating. My future starts when I wake up every morning…every day I find something creative to do with my life.”

Miles Davis

Now before some of you ask, “who’s Miles Davis?” I’ve hyperlinked his bio above in his name 🙂 I’ve included this quote as I think it has a really positive message. “My future starts when I wake up every morning…” I think this is great. Living by each morning being your future and not just another day, it puts a real positive meaning to each day. After all, your future is what you make it, right? Plus I’ve not even touched on the importance of being creative!

“I wake up some mornings and sit and have my coffee and look out at my beautiful garden, and I go, remember how good this is. Because you can lose this.”

Jim Carrey

OK, so you could look at this and say it’s a bit negative. After all if we live thinking we could lose everything that doesn’t make for a good life. But lets look at this in a positive light. What I take from this quote is that Jim is taking a little time in the morning to be grateful for what he has. Something we could all probably do a little bit more of. Instead of worrying or moaning about what we don’t have, what somebody else has, lets be happy for what we have.

“Cardio is a nice way to start the morning man. Whether you sit on the bike for half an hour…it’s good to get up, get the body active, put on your headphones and just pedal away.”

Anthony Joshua

Right then, don’t want to pick a fight with this guy so we should all just agree with him 🙂 Seriously though, I don’t really have to interpret this quote. Basically we know we should exercise. The morning is a great time to do this. I for one am not doing enough of this at the moment but have plans to get there. In fact I have started playing football again, well after 9 months out it’s more like I’m making the numbers up coughing and struggling for oxygen around the pitch but I’m getting there. Anyway, exercise good, we should do it, simples 😉

“When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive, to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love.”

Marcus Aurelius

Going back to my earlier point that this concept isn’t anything new, good old Marcus was born in the year 121 AD. Not just an Emperor, he was a philosopher too so not a surprise his quote is quite philosophical. I like this one as it not only has a bit in there about being grateful, like Jim Carrey’s, but also some good positive stuff about how to live our days, “to enjoy”.

“For the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself, “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?” And whenever the answer has been “No” for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something. “

Steve Jobs

This one I like. But you kinda have to not look at it in the literal sense for it to work. What I mean here is, wouldn’t it be great if we could all just do what we wanted. Now there is a train of thought that says we should do what we want, but that’s not always practical, after all we have bills to pay etc etc. It is possible however, to make changes in your life to move you towards what you want to do. But what I really like in this quote, is the concept of regularly assessing what you want out of life and taking positive action to get there.

“Your thoughts in the morning, shape and colour your thoughts for the day.”

Dave Crompton

So I know what you’re thinking, “who’s Dave Crompton?” Or if you know who I am, you’re thinking “he’s not famous?!” Well I’m writing this so I can put what I want 🙂 All joking aside, this was my realisation. That my negative thoughts in the morning meant that my day ahead didn’t stand a chance. So I needed to improve my mornings if I wanted to improve my day.

What I am trying to do to improve myself and my mental health in relation to this issue

Well mornings is when I do my meditating. I think its important to say here that I don’t do it every morning. I wish I did but sometimes I don’t feel like it or I don’t get up in time. But I make sure I don’t beat myself up about not doing it, as this can make me feel bad about myself and when that happens my depression can take hold. What I like about meditating, is that if I want I can use a guided meditation linked to how I’m feeling or what I need to do for the day ahead, such as “letting go of negativity” or “feeling positive”.

Another great idea, is one that a friend mentioned to me earlier this week. Now this might not work for you but it does for me. Music! By putting on some music that you like, music that makes you feel good, this basically has the same effect as meditation for me. Songs can remind me of good times, make me feel good. Lets be honest, nothing better than having a sing and dance in the shower 🙂

Anyway. hope you found this useful. The point I’m trying to make is that there are lots of things we can do in the morning that will set us up for the day ahead and give us a more positive outlook. Even if that day then brings some bad times, you may find that you are a little more resilient and better able to deal with what life throws at you.

As always I’d love to hear what you think about this.

Take care of yourselves.

2 Replies to “Forming your Morning – it’s important!”

  1. First thing in the morning is worst time but sometimes everything else is overwhelming, hitting 50 has made me personally reflect a lot, on one hand pulls me down but on another it lifts me up, I need those things in my life to put it into perspective, football, am the fattest and in fittest on the pitch but I love it, just love it a great escape, music is amazing therapy for me, gives me inspiration. Thank you for your blog, makes sence to me.
    Respect and love jm

    1. Spot on Jay, balance and perspective is what its all about. As long as you have positives to balance things off and accept things as positive you’re on your way to a happy day 🙂

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